Final Resting Place & A Miracle ......

2011 Friday, Feb 11, Sunny Skies.

Today is my beloved Dad's 7th week anniversary after his passing. In Buddhism, it is believed that yesterday, the 49th day, was the last day his soul lingers on earth and today he would return 'home' to where he originally came from, the Western Pure Land.

In this place, from a stone to the birds and even clouds, are in gold. My Dad will also be in gold.

And, here on earth, we try to find a place as near perfect as possible as the final resting place for his ashes, and hence, his ashes are now placed at the Nilai Memorial Park's Water Village Columbarium. This place is equally enchanting, as best as man can make, I guess. The sound of birds chirping and water flowing surrounds his final resting place and it is, really, a very nice place. At least, for me, it is.

And I do 'feel' that this would be where he would want his ashes to be placed. Why do I say that ? Because he was with me when I went to select his 'home'.

You see, I was shown two places for selection, I was first shown to theWater Village Columbarium and later to the other columbarium, a so-called air-conditioned 'Bungalow'. I personally really like the air-cond bungalow, compared to the water village, for I felt at peace when I entered that columbarium but my other family members who came with me, felt otherwise - they thought it felt too 'cold', and not just because of the air-conditioning .......

So I went back to the Water Village to view the particular niche box again which I had earlier short-listed, and as I was walking into the columbarium, I whispered 'Dad, so which one do you prefer ? The air-cond Bungalow or this place - the water village?' And the moment I looked up at the selected niche box, I saw a tiny little spider sitting right in the center of the niche box cover ! I mean there were many many niche boxes there but Mr Spider just did not go anywhere for the 15 minutes I was there. So that had to be his answer, right? So I made the decision to confirm the box at the Water Village Columbarium there and then. The moment I made  that choice, I felt a sudden calmness came over me and I know I had made the right decision for him.....

A few days later, as I was just rummaging through my Dad's wallet to find his ID, I saw this lottery ticket he bought the weekend before he passed away, ( he normally buys a small token without fail on Sundays ~ old habits die hard ) and I noticed the 4-digit number that he bought actually coincides with his niche box number, ( the number was the other way round) but yet....... ! It was like as if he'd subconsciously knew then, I mean, of all the combinations of numbers out there he had to pick this one....! It's unbelievable! I was shocked and in awed ; and at that moment in time, I believed in miracles do happen. And, it further reconfirmed the rightness of my choice.



The view from my Dad's resting place

 Now, everytime I visit him at his new 'home' on earth, it felt right and it felt good. I honestly feel that he is truly resting in peace and for that, I am at peace too knowing he is 'happy' where he is now.

But, then again, my Dad would always be happy with anything I choose, make or buy for him,  for he'll be contented, and he will be grinning from ear-to-ear because it's from his 'Sunshine' ~ me.

In his own words, I am his Sunshine deeply treasured.......

I Love You, Dad.

His Sunshine,
Su Yi